“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
So November has arrived. In a few days it will be a whole year since the devastating tsunami struck our family. We have experienced so much sorrow and heartache. It’s been a long journey for my husband. The saddest journey of his life. How blinded and duped he has been by satan’s lies. For so many years that journey has brought him sadness and grief that he could never share and as he looked on and saw his family, his heart was broken. God has been so kind to us in bringing him to this point. He is forgiven and loved and precious to God.
Jesus leads the way, showing us how to respond. He always shows such kindness. When we are shown kindness from others, we are positively impacted, how much more does God’s kindness change and impact us.
I know what God wants me to do. He wants me to remember his grace and forgiveness and He asks me to do the same. This is the beginning of a new life. I have an understanding of hurt and sorrow and grief and bereavement. I know and understand betrayal. I have experienced great sorrow, but God says: react like Jesus. Love until it hurts, until you can love no more. Forgive and forgive and forgive. Never bring the past up, but live with your husband in such a way that it’s like this devastation has never happened.
So this is what I intend to do. To love better than before, and when it hurts me to love, I will look at Jesus. I will remember his kindness to those who drove the nails into his hands and feet. I will remember his concern for the thief hanging next to him. I will remember that Jesus didn’t think of himself, but showed kindness to others. As he hung there in agony he was thinking of us, taking our sin and shame, making it possible to be reconciled with our Heavenly Father. Such love under pressure.
This journey has been a strange privilege. God has shown me my flaws, my sins, my unkind responses and challenged me to the core. I have resented and fought. Submission to his word has been a hard convoluted journey which has brought life.
It is possible to love our spouses when they have hurt and betrayed us. It is possible
if we are really understanding God’s love for us. I pray that as we respond to unkindness in many forms, that self is taken off the throne and Christ put firmly on it.
1 Peter 4:8
Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.